Do You Have Everything You Thought You Ever Wanted, Yet Feel Like Something’s Missing?

Don’t worry, you’re not alone.

If you’ve read my story, you know that I spent a lot of time and energy building a “perfect” life that was not ideal for me. The problem was that I built a life around what I thought I wanted and what made me feel accomplished in the eye’s of others, without staying connected with my own truth.

The TRUTH of the situation was that I got addicted to the thrill of being “ahead.” I’ve always been impatient and highly driven… spending most of high school dreaming about the many businesses I would create, the things I would accomplish and the places I would go. So when I learned that it was possible for me to graduate high school early and get started with life, I was all over it!

The Slippery Slope

While I’m thankful that I’ve never done anything I really didn’t want to do for the sake of impressing others, I did get caught up in the idea of constantly “one-upping” myself. I was also highly motivated by being the first, youngest or “best” in whatever I was doing. It started with graduating high school early and led right into a 3-year Bachelor’s degree program. During school, I was more than eager to get started working and was taking on small freelance clients and internships.

By my last year of school I was working overtime at a busy design firm while working on my final portfolio for graduation, had bought a brand new townhouse with my then boyfriend and was still working with some small freelance clients, always dreaming of starting my own business.

I was rockin’ it. People were proud, things were happening and I was completely lost in it all.

After graduating college, settling into a full-time salaried position and getting all set up in my new house, things started to feel… off. While my job kept me extremely busy and distracted during the day, the time commuting, weekends and evenings (that were no longer filled with homework and freelance clients) left me feeling very antsy and uncomfortable.

I had everything I thought I ever wanted, and yet a part of me still felt like something was missing.

Can you relate?

For me, my whole life felt off course. I lost my ability to express myself creatively. I lost sight of who I really was in my relationship while trying to reduce tension. I spent all my time and energy working towards a profession and career that I mistook as my “calling,” when really it was more of a necessary skill set for larger dreams I’d forgotten.

If you’re feeling unhappy, discontent or like something is missing… this is a very good indicator that you’ve lost your way. While you may not have gotten caught up in something like being “ahead” or impressing others, you could very well have set your truth and DREAMS aside out of necessity.

Maybe you got distracted by someone or something… or maybe you’ve avoided following your heart for fear of failure. Whatever the reason, feeling like something is missing is only the beginning. If you try to “snap out of it” or brush these feelings aside, you’re only going to feel worse as time goes on.

It’s OKAY to feel this way. There’s nothing wrong with not being satisfied with where you’ve ended up, even if you thought it would be your dream life.

Even if everyone else is proud of you, idolizes you or wishes they had what you have.

If it’s not for you, it’s not for you.

How to Determine What’s “Missing” for YOU

For now, I want you to spend some time thinking about WHY you feel off. Is it your relationships that don’t quite feel right? Does your job leave you with a nagging feeling of dissatisfaction at the end of the day? When you’re out and about in your town, does it just not feel like the right fit for you?

Spend the next week listening to your body and what you’re feeling. You may not be able to pinpoint the why, but start taking note of what you feel when you start to feel off or like something’s missing. Where are you? What’s going through your head? What physical sensations do you feel?

Next week I’ll share some surefire ways to find the source of your off-ness and what you can do about it!

Share your thoughts, reactions, insights or “aha” moments in the comments below!
I’d love to here from you. xo

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