Don’t set impossibly high standards for yourself based on other people’s stories, or the journeys you see on screen and read in books.
There’s no fast forward.
No real-life montage scenes.
No “turning a corner” and – BAM! – everything changes.
In the many tales we’re told as a means to teach us hope and faith, pain is sped through to make room for happy endings. Regrets are squeezed into a chapter or two before everything seems to sort itself out. And before you know it, tears turn into laughter and failures become brilliant successes. The bad and good are woven together in ways that don’t resemble real life.
Real healing and growth take time to wade through. They take intention and conscious choice to move into a new way of being and to let go of what no longer serves us. They’re laced with more losses than we can count, well before we begin to gain what’s more aligned with who we’re becoming. They’re messy and hard.
Take your time. Feel your way through each and every chapter for as long as it takes.
I promise you, soon enough, your story’s going to have a happy ending too… or, at the very least, a deep sense of calm and contentment. So long as you do the work.