Unresolved grief and trauma are at the root of so much of our suffering. Right alongside all the stored emotions and repressed memories we push down, avoid, and ignore.
They don’t just disappear, friends.
They fester inside our cells.
They make us sick and tired, cause depression, anxiety, and brain fog, and continually push the things we want to experience further and further away… things like joy, peace, and purpose.
It’s no wonder when we start doing the work to heal and grow that we begin having waves of emotion come up suddenly. Waves of unexplained anger, rage, and fury. The deep, visceral need to cry with no specific source to be found. Moments where our bodies shake and tremble out of seemingly nowhere.
Every time I’ve worked through the layers of healing my trauma and releasing old core wounds, I find myself in a “weepy” state for days and weeks at a time. Crying endlessly, without any apparent reason. Because really, it’s just the old, stored emotions moving out. That’s it. That’s all that’s happening.
But we disrupt this process because it’s hard and uncomfortable. Because we think it’s wrong or weak to “be emotional.” We feel we should be able to power through what we need to do with smiles plastered on our faces.
When really, if we would just allow the emotion to move through, we would find the peace and joy we’re seeking. We would feel more like ourselves and more aligned in our lives. We would have more energy, clarity, and enthusiasm again. Because feelings are just energy in motion, and by definition, they’re not meant to be stuffed down or bypassed. They’re meant to be felt.
You can’t grow and heal if you’re not willing to feel.
And we’ll never be willing to feel if we’re not willing to get uncomfortable and out of sorts for a bit. It doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong or that you’ll never get to the other side; it just means the old, stored emotions are moving out.