When you change at your core, shifting the way you’re being, how you view the world changes. What’s possible and what’s not shifts completely. It’s powerful and exciting and terrifying all at once. And, mostly, it’s isolating… because the people around you can’t see what you see.
They can only see the world in the way you used to see it with them. They see thick cement walls where you now see wide open windows. They see blocks and impossible barriers where you now see open and exciting pathways. They see absurd and unrealistic where you now see possibility and potential.
They can’t see the world the way you see it.
It can be maddening, if you let it.
It can be disheartening, if you let it.
It can be deflating, if you let it.
Or you can accept the truth: you are outgrowing the ones you surround yourself with. You are stepping into what comes next, and not everyone is going to follow. You are becoming more, and sometimes you have to let go of the hands that held you in order to become all that you are meant to be.
Some people will journey with you.
Many will not.
That’s okay, it’s as it should be.
I always say with growth comes outgrowing. It’s painful, but necessary. Heartbreaking, but ultimately the best for everyone involved.
It doesn’t mean you don’t miss them, because you will. It just means that you stop choosing to hold yourself back because the ones around you don’t want to grow.
Besides, your growth or leaving may be exactly what they need to decide to grow themselves. Maybe not, but sometimes it is. Stop holding the both of you back. Stop staying small for the sake of someone else’s comfort. Stop waiting for others to see the possibilities you now see.
Trust yourself enough to keep moving forward.
You won’t be alone for long.