Three Tips to Help You Find Your True Calling

May 21, 2019

You were put here for a reason, with your unique personality, skills, passions and point of view. You’re meant to do very unique work in this world. “And what’s that?” you might be wondering…

Show up and be you.
Do what you’re called to do. 
Follow your passions, speak your truth and leave your mark.

So many of us go through life with a clear sense (or maybe just a nagging feeling deep inside) that we’re not living up to our full potential. An understanding that there’s more to life than the 9-to-5 job, getting married, having kids and saving enough money for a comfortable retirement and some fun things to pass the time until we die.

Often, we think that “finding our purpose” means discovering some great calling or to do hugely important things in the world… you know, Mother Teresa and Martin Luther King, Jr. style. That’s simply not true. We’re all put here with different personalities, passions and skills.

If you feel called to make art, then you were put here to make art. If you feel called to write, record, build, design, speak or explore, then you were put here to do just that. We have to find what lights us up, what we feel called to do, and do it.

With all the possibilities, desires and “shoulds,” it can be hard sometimes to make sense of what your true calling is and what’s simply a fleeting desire or whim. Desires and whims are important and can be excellent tools in guiding you toward what you need next in your life, but it’s important to distinguish between the two.

Definition of a WHIM:
“A sudden or capricious idea; a fancy. Arbitrary thought or impulse: governed by whim.”

Definition of a CALLING:
“A vocation, profession, or trade; a call or summons; a strong impulse or inclination.”

Diving Deeper

Let’s take a closer look at the difference between the two.

A calling is magnetic and all-consuming.

Callings draw you toward them. They start as a tiny nagging thought or feeling, then begin to consume your mind and drive your everyday life. They can’t be ignored. You’ll feel a sense of urgency and a strong inclination to follow a calling, whereas a whim is oftentimes fleeting.

Whims are impulsive and may feel as though they’ve come out of nowhere. Callings start deep inside of us, stirring and growing over time until they simply can’t be ignored any longer. Ignoring a strong calling will leave you feeling frustrated, unfulfilled, antsy and very discontent with your life and career if these things are out of alignment.

The core focus of a calling is always present.

If you feel called to care for animals, inspire healthy lifestyle changes in others or end global warming, that will always drive you, regardless of how you choose to act on it. If you’re called to care for animals, you may be a veterinarian, create a nonprofit against factory farming, become a vegan health coach or even just foster shelter animals until they can find their forever homes. You may even do one or more of these in your lifetime, but the core of what calls you will always be present.

If you’re called to inspire healthy lifestyle changes in others, you may be a health coach, write a cookbook, start a gluten-free baked goods store or become a personal trainer. You may also just love to cook healthy meals, learn about organic urban farming and keep yourself in shape, effectively inspiring those around you to do the same. Inspiring change is always present.

Whims, on the other hand, vary greatly. There may be times you feel a desire to be active, social, rebellious or experimental, while other times you feel the desire to be still, go inside yourself or cut ties. They are necessary, but they are also temporary.

Callings are about contribution.

Whether you feel called to make art or change the course of global warming, all callings are about contributing to the world. Through your words, actions, presence and creations. This is why they matter.

Your views, experiences, voice and ideas are meant to be shared and your calling will align itself with some way to express these things, though the medium varies from person to person. Your calling is as unique as you are.

Whims are more selfish and focused on you — what you feel the desire or need to do for yourself in this moment. Achieving some desired feeling, experience, knowledge or connection. Whims feed and fuel us, allow us to rejuvenate our spirits and refill the well of ideas and inspiration, but they’re narrow by nature.

Is it a calling, or a whim?

Start by asking yourself the following:

What is it you feel compelled to do?
Has it been nagging at you or does it feel impulsive and random?
What is at the heart of it?
Is there an aspect of contribution? If so, what is it?

If you resonate with my journey are feeling stuck around your own passions and callingcheck out my free video training on How to Uncover Who You’re Here to be and the Work You’re Here to Do. You’ll also learn how to eliminate all obstacles between you and your vision!

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