I don’t know who needs to hear this today, but… it’s not your job to carry someone else on your shoulders when they’re unwilling to do their work. It’s heavy, and it’s suffocating, and it’s not what you’re here to do.
It’s one thing to hold space for someone you love who takes ownership of their life, healing, and growth. It’s another to be a dumping ground for people who want to stay stuck in their stories, never breaking free and trying to keep you down in the deep, dark with them.
You may think it’s love… but real love lifts you up.
You may think it’s friendship… but real friends don’t drag you down.
You may think it’s worth it… but in the end, it’s rarely so.
Some people weigh you down, even if that’s not their intention, but you have the right to shake that weight off your shoulders. It doesn’t make you a bad person, and you’re not responsible for anyone else’s healing and happiness.
I know it’s tempting to be the savior (and to believe you may be the one to change them), but it’s not your duty to save people. You don’t have to carry their hurt, trauma, or struggle on top of yours. You don’t have to try and fix them or their life, especially when they’re asking you to.
You can’t save anyone from themselves.
Especially when they don’t want to be saved.
Focus on yourself.