We all have an area of our life where we’re consistently creating the same results (and not in a good way).
That might be health, relationships, finances, or work, but regardless of where it is, we continually wind up in the same situation or experience again and again.
For me, this area is relationships.
Whether that’s friendships or romantic partners, I’ve had the bad habit of creating the same result of not feeling seen or heard, losing myself to some degree, and not feeling truly fulfilled or happy… but I’ve been digging deep into this pattern in order to untangle the beliefs, thought processes, and habits that cause me to continually CO-CREATE these situations… all so that I’m able to create something new, something different, something better.
It’s easy to complain about certain aspects of our life.
There’s never enough money.
We always attract the same kind of person.
Work is constantly draining and frustrating.
Something always comes up to derail our goals.
We’re overwhelmed and exhausted, always burning out.
Life is hard, people are unkind, work is unfulfilling.
You get the idea.
The truth is, we’re 100% responsible for the results we’re getting in all areas of our life.
This isn’t about blame and shame, nor is it about excusing away unacceptable behavior in others, it’s about total ownership and deep empowerment. Life happens and people do horrible things, yes—there are absolutely things that are out of our control—but we get to decide what we create in the aftermath. Who we’re going to be and the story we’re going to tell ourselves and others. Whether or not this is the ‘end all, be all’ in this area of our life, or if we’re going to do the hard work to create true change and transformation.
Us, and no one else.
Where are you consistently seeing a result in your life that you’re not happy with? What insight and information does that give you that will allow you to make different choices, take different actions, and think different thoughts?