Does everything happen for a reason? Yes, absolutely… just not in the ways most people like to use that phrase. Not everything is divinely orchestrated or the result of some spiritual agreement made before we came into this life.
Sometimes it’s just human.
Hard, heartbreaking, awful, and confusing.
“Everything happens for a reason” is one of the most common ways we spiritually bypass the deeper healing and growth work, and it’s not okay. It’s a problem. It’s damaging to the ones trying to navigate the aftermath of life’s most challenging chapters and experiences. Experiences like grief and loss, trauma and abuse, devastating changes and transitions.
It’s not so much about the reason why something happened, it’s about what you choose to do with it. The meaning you consciously decide to assign to it and how you’re going to choose to show up. How you’re going to let it shape you (or not).
That’s what matters.
That’s the real conversation.
That’s the work we’re meant to do.
I have a lot to say about this. 😉