We Aren’t Prepared for the Pain
They told us many things.
How to read and how to write. How big the world is and all the history to go with it. How to get good grades and get a job.How to keep a clean house and be responsible.
And don’t get me wrong, I’m grateful for all of that.
You see, we all learned a great many things about life… in school, from our parents, and from people we’ve met along this great big adventure called life.
But they never said anything about what’s hard and what hurts.
When grief and trauma entered my life like a hurricane, no one told me how much it would hurt… how much I would lose. The world suddenly seemed overwhelming and impossible as everything about my life, my work, and myself broke into billion little pieces.
Now that I think about it, even if they did tell us… how on Earth can you ever be prepared for it?
You can’t, really.
But what you can do is this: your healing and growth work. Learning to trust yourself and your intuition above anything and everyone else. Mastering discernment. Learning new tools and growing your resource base for when things get challenging. Understanding and expressing your emotions, and not just the happy, fluffy ones. Speaking your truth and learning how to take up more space. Being willing to let go of anything and everyone that’s no longer aligned.
It’s not easy work, but it’s worth it. And you will be far more prepared for all that life throws your way if you do.
