It’s okay to feel sad when something doesn’t go quite how you’d hoped, even if you didn’t realize you were hoping it turned out a certain way before it fell through.
Let yourself feel what you feel.
No judgment or making yourself wrong.
Turns out you really wanted it, and that’s more than okay.
Now you know, and you can take the time to sit with what about it felt beautiful, desirable, and aligned so that you can expand your beliefs around what’s possible. Just because something didn’t work out, that doesn’t mean you’ll never have it. It just means it didn’t work out with that particular person or situation.
Notice where you spiral into not feeling worthy, deserving, or good enough and stop yourself before you spin out. Don’t leave space for the stories and interpretations that make you feel bad about yourself or your life.
None of that’s true.
It just didn’t work out with that particular person or situation.
That’s it. That’s all that happened.
And in the process of it not working out, you realized you wanted it.
So feel your feelings and focus on why. What was there that you’re sad to lose or miss out on? What did you feel or experience that was lovely or expansive? What did you learn about yourself, the world, or what’s possible in this life?
Gather those insights and hold them in your heart as you continue moving toward what you want. Some things come across our path simply to expand and wake us up. And some things are tests from the Universe to see if we’re really ready to hold onto it when it comes. Not being ready doesn’t mean anything other than we weren’t ready… but we can take that awareness that we want it and we’re not ready, and do the work to prepare for the right person and situation.
What do you want?
That’s the important question to ask yourself now.
If it’s the thing that didn’t turn out how you wanted, is there something you can do to change that outcome? Sometimes there is, and sometimes there isn’t, and it never hurts to try if it’s important to you. What can you do now?
If it’s something else you’re now aware you want, what can you do to start moving in the direction of getting that? Who do you need to be? What action can you take? How can you use your present disappointment as fuel to create new things?