I’ve done a lot of remarkable things that weren’t for me.
They were to win the approval of family, friends, or peers. To prove to myself and others that I was worthy and lovable. To check the boxes of “success” as quickly as possible and find that ever-elusive sense of joy and contentment.
When I was 21 years old, I had everything I thought I ever wanted—everything I was told I should want. This is me standing in the brand new townhouse I’d just bought with my “high school sweetheart” of almost seven years. I had just graduated college at the top of my class, had a fantastic job at a local design firm making more money than my peers, and was driving a shiny little car in my own name.
I’d done all the things I was told I should do more quickly than most, and I was absolutely miserable. Depressed, unfulfilled, and already asking the question, “Is this all there is to life?”
I’m grateful to that younger me for being brave enough to start tearing it all apart the second she realized the answer was no. The moment she decided there had to be more, and she committed to uncovering it.
It was a difficult and challenging several years that followed as I tried to change everything externally to find that joy and contentment. But it wasn’t until I started doing the inner growth work, refocusing my mindset, and clarifying my passions and purpose that I was able to root into a deep sense of unshakeable joy.
I’m glad I realized all of this so young, but I want to say this: it’s never too late. You’re never too far down the wrong path to stop and course correct. You’re never too old, too obligated, or too deep into what you’re doing. That’s just a story your subconscious tells to keep you “safe” (which just means to keep you in the known and familiar).
It starts with shifting your paradigm and understanding how to make the impossible happen. Join me in Coaching + Community, and let’s start integrating the mindset, beliefs, and ways of being that make doing the impossible happen rapidly in all areas of your life.