I’ve done a lot of hard things in my life.
Writing The Unravel Book is near the top of that list.
Every time I send out an advanced reader copy, I’m incredibly terrified. Because writing a book like this is more akin to taking slivers of your heart and soul, along with the most awful and challenging moments of your life, and placing them in the perfect little package for other people to consume.
It’s not so much what people think of me and whether or not they like my writing… it’s really about whether or not it’s helpful. Whether or not it will live up to the intention I held for it: to help others feel less crazy and alone inside the madness that is rising up and coming back from a spectacular fall, from the most heartbreaking experiences we walk through in these little lives of ours.
It’s been called gripping, intense, raw, and emotionally graphic… because that’s what I do, I tell the truth about how hard it is to find healing and a new sense of wholeness in the aftermath of grief, trauma, PTSD, abuse, and the loss of everything I knew to be true. The loss of my business, my life as I knew it, my closest relationships, my health, and my entire sense of self.
And that my friends is so far from pretty.
I share it all because I want people to realize there’s no right way or timeline for healing. That the reorienting process is all things confusing at times, but that doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong. That choosing to rise up and come back is far, FAR harder than the initial fall or hitting rock bottom, because it takes time, patience, intention, and a never-ending series of challenging choices.
And most importantly, I want people to realize how capable we all are of doing hard things. Really, really hard things. Like feeling our feelings when we’re positive they’re going to consume us. Cultivating a willingness to let go of everything known and familiar and lean wholeheartedly in an entirely new direction. Doing the work to untangle ourselves from the old ways of being, patterns, beliefs, and strategies that no longer serve us. Stepping fully into who we’re here to be and the work we’re here to do, unwaveringly.