We’re Only Having Half of the Conversation

I’m pissed.

I know I don’t look it in this photo (I was just playing in the snow after all), but I really am.

I’m pissed and I’m tired in one of those really healing and catalyzing ways. Tired of the incomplete conversations we’re having disguised as “inspiration” and “motivation.” In the personal growth, coaching, and healing fields. On social media. In blogs and well edited videos. With people who have no ability to truly meet another in the deepest depths, because spiritual bypassing has become an epidemic we spiritually bypass right on by.

I say this knowing I’ve participated—fully aware that I’m not sure what the answer is—but I feel my work and the conversation I want to have shifting. It came up in three conversations this last week… three conversations that moved me through another layer of my grief. That allowed me to find more peace and less shame and blame.

“I don’t know what I’m doing with this work yet,” I shrugged over brunch. “It’s unlike anything I’ve done or seen, I just don’t know what it is yet.”

“What would you have needed while you were going through everything,” he asked.

And, it’s this.

A different conversation.
Less spiritual bypassing.
More presence and realness.
Less “inspiration.”
Less marketing disguised as vulnerability.
Less disconnected “wisdom.”
More truth-telling.
More rawness and realness.

If we just focus on being “inspiring” and “motivational,” we’re only having half the conversation. And it’s the easy half. Because actually LIVING those mantras, sayings, and wise words is some of the most devastatingly difficult work we’ll ever do. THAT is the conversation we need to be having.

I know it starts with me.
And I have a lot to say.

💛