We see the world differently after trauma.
It’s a challenging experience because most people don’t see what we see, and they make us feel wrong.
Several years ago, I was sitting poolside with a friend.
It was a hot summer day, and we were enjoying some downtime in the sun.
A sweet baby girl was splashing around in the water in her pink swimsuit and a little sun hat on. We were both watching and smiling at her joy when my friend suddenly turned to me and said, “is something wrong with me that I can see such a happy little girl and wonder if anyone has abused her?”
“Not at all,” I replied. “You consider that reality because it was yours.”
Trauma shapes us.
It expands our worldview in ways that are less than ideal.
The simple truth is: we have a new lens through which we see the world.
We know the potential for harm and heartbreak because we’ve lived through it.
It’s not anxiety or negativity rooted in possibility; it’s anchored in lived experience.
I’ve had similar conversations with my clients about the things that worry them where others don’t even consider the potential. They feel like something’s wrong with them, and I totally understand why. It’s something I experience myself.
Trauma shapes us and expands our worldview.
We’re aware of so much that we never thought of before.
And this is a challenge because most people around us don’t have the same lived experiences and legitimate anxieties that plague our brains and nervous systems. They make us feel crazy, negative, and even damaged or broken from our trauma.
I promise that you’re not.
You just see things that others can’t.
It’s also vital for us to remember that there’s still good in this world we live in.
We’re aware that the world is a scarier and more dark and painful place after trauma, but there’s still good.
There’s still beauty and kindness, and genuine people abound.
We knew that to be true before our trauma—until we didn’t. And just because it’s true that bad people exist and horrible things happen to sweet souls all the time, that doesn’t negate that there’s still good. It’s essential to hold that in our hearts because it’s easy to be consumed by the darkness we’ve experienced.
You’re not crazy or damaged if you still consider the potential for bad.
And continue to focus and celebrate all that’s good.
This balance is necessary and crucial to our continued healing and growth and our ability to open our hearts and let down our guard so that we can call in the things we desire. So we can become the person we’re here to be and live our purpose.
If you need support, I highly recommend process work.
This type of work allows us to release the stored emotions, fears, and traumas on a deeper level so that we can experience true freedom and peace.
Book a consultation with me today to see if working together is a good fit.