When Other People Misunderstand Us
People have tried to make me wrong and bad for desiring more, different, and better, for holding myself to the highest standards that feel aligned, as far back as I can remember.
They’ve questioned my motivations or tried to manipulate my process and movement.
People have often found a way to ask, “who do you think you are?” without ever using those pointed words. Telling me I’m not someone or something of substance, ability, or success without ever saying it at all.
I do my best never to make people feel wrong for the level they choose to play at. Yet my attempts to live my fullest expression, actualize my highest potential, and see just what I’m capable of creating are sometimes perceived as a personal attack on other people and where they’re at.
Because it’s…
Fear, insecurity, or discomfort.
An avoidance of facing the truth that they may be capable of more, that they may actually deeply desire different and better for themselves and their lives, too.
Control (for some) because others standing out, being louder, or taking up more space feels terrifyingly unsafe.
Not liking change of any kind.
Not understanding me or my desires.
Regardless, it’s not actually about me.
It’s not about my vision or capacity.
It’s not about right or wrong, good or bad.
It’s about them.
I’ve been shamed, projected all over, insulted, abandoned, and rejected for claiming and going after my big desires. I’ve been called names, pathologized, and had people attempt to subtly or violently control me. I’ve been wildly and heartbreakingly misunderstood.
But I’ve learned to see these things as signs that I’m on the right path for me—that I’m pushing my edges and going after what I want, and as a reminder that who we surround ourselves with matters a lot.
Even more importantly, I’ve learned that the things I’ve felt most misunderstood around are, in fact, my greatest strengths and gifts.
Learning to be at peace with being misunderstood is vital, as is clearing the fears, traumas, and deep-rooted shame. Otherwise, you’ll never live your fullest expression and most aligned life. You’ll never contribute to the world in the way that only you can, in a way that’s deeply needed right now.
Join me for a new masterclass all about navigating being misunderstood (with powerful process work!) on Wednesday, July 27th at 7pm ET. It’s going to be life-changing, heart-opening, and soul-expanding (and comes with lifetime access for revisiting the conversation as often as needed.)
